Let’s Talk.  I was looking through my library of books and came across some wonderful reading material. I wish I had the hours to sit and immerse myself in all of this information. I am simultaneously reading three books.  Did you know that when you purchase a book, you are actually purchasing the years of knowledge and wisdom a person has gain over their life time? That’s priceless.  I am reading on one of my admired subjects in Taffi Dollar’s, The Portrait of a Virtuous Woman: Finding Your Freedom in God’s Perfect Plan for You. It helps me to make the necessary adjustments in my own journey to break free of inner chaos, confusion, regrets and disappointments.

She cites four things that may become roadblocks as you begin to change. Below is my spin on how the first two of these four roadblocks applies to you making necessary adjustments for designing your ideal life. Next week, I’ll write to you about the remaining two. The numbered italicized roadblock statements in bold are in Taffi’s words. The paragraphs that follow are in my words.

1.  Feelings of Low Self-Image or Lack of Worth
If your self-image is different and less than how God sees you, then your image is false. Perhaps you’ve been seeking your identity and looking for fulfillment among the wrong people, things or places. Here’s how God sees you:

   (a) with a peace of mind – freedom from fear, anger
        and doubt
   (b) with good health – high energy with a satisfied
        life
   (c) with loving relationships – long-term, mature
        relationships with other people
   (d) with financial freedom – no worries of having
        enough money
   (e) with worthy goals and ideas – a driven purpose
   (f)  with personal fulfillment – becoming everything
        you are capable of becoming

2. Unwilling to Change the Way you Speak
The words you speak will either put you over or set up roadblocks. Your words have power. Idle words work against you. Saying things out of habit can destroy your life and those of others.

   (a) I died laughing – say it was extremely
        funny and I laughed
   (b) you won’t ever amount to anything – say you
        can change and do much better
   (c) I will never be successful – say I can do all
        things through Christ
   (d) this pain is killing me – say I refuse to let this
        pain overtake me. I am already healed!

Next week I’ll give my personal spin on how you can make necessary adjustments on the other two roadblocks to design your ideal life.

Final note: as a certified interior living educator, specialist and strategist, I can help you to apply the tools to create major breakthroughs, achieve emotional clarity, personal accountability and inner direction so you can create a life of confidence, order and freedom. Let me help you get unstuck and live intentionally so you can design your ideal life. Begin by signing up for a get-acquainted session on my website.

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As I was sitting here quiet in meditation this morning there were so many things running through my mind. It is virtually impossible to focus that way. Today I am determined to de-clog my mind that I may hear and know clearly the directions I must take for my life, family, home, profession, ministry, writing and all of my endeavors. You’ve noticed that I haven’t blogged for a few weeks. Wow, not good. I want you to expect to hear from me often so I must be diligent to share. But in the name of “busyness” we so often push aside things that actually are necessary to help us move forward. Have you ever had a clogged pipe where water just sat in the sink and not moving anywhere? It seems everyone has a formula for getting the water to move and you’re following every direction presented to you. Nothing really happens. No matter how many formulas you may pour into the sink, the water remains there because something is stuck forbidding it to run freely. Much the same is with our mind. We have a litany of things to do and for the sake of “busyness” things aren’t moving fast enough because our attention is divided among so much to do. Every social media expert has a mailing list because they have “the formula” to move you to where you want to go. There are so many teleconferences highlighting the best of the gurus with their story and how it will work for you. And then there are the social networks themselves that require your undivided attention because you want to be sociable. And what about helping someone else out with their life’s projects for the sake of being sociable and then you find yourself with little time to work on your own. At the same time, all of these are trapped into the mind tunnel and can’t be released because the mind is cluttered..should I do this? If I don’t I’ll miss out? Which way should I go?

All Choices are not Created Equal

So today I endeavor to throw off everything that hinders and everything that so easily entangles so I can run with perseverance the race marked out for me. How is this done? There’s an awesome passage which tells us that apart from God we can do nothing. Latch onto this if you believe. It is your freedom package! Unfortunately and too often we become our own “hero” or “shero” believing we can handle anything in the name of “busyness”. And though we are busy doing what’s good, it is not necessarily profitable. What happens. Our mind becomes clogged and we can’t stay focused on what’s relevant and important since now we’ve become a “Jack, or Jill of all trades.” I sat here this morning talking with my Lord about what should I be doing. That’s how to begin clearing out the clutter. Ask for direction. Seek His wisdom and clarity. Everything we need is already within us. It is the wisdom from above that’s needed to proceed and cause us to triumph. Here’s my laundry list of things to clean-up in order that I stay on track and remain steadfast and focused on what I’m called to do. 1. Ask for forgiveness. Lord I want to be focused on what you’ve called me to do and be discerning of what direction(s) or program(s) are required to carry it out. 2. Find out what to purge Father, you made me and know my frame. Release me from what is holding me back from moving forward. 3. Just say no You can’t be everything to everyone. Today I canceled some commitments with an apology that I just couldn’t do it. Never burn bridges, and if you can refer an alternative then do that. 4. Exhale and stay on-point Exhaling to me is an outward expression of starting fresh, anew. Finish the task before you and refrain from jumping ahead to something new. It’s best to do one thing in excellence than several things poorly just for the sake of getting them done. 5. Journal every night the priories of the next day And stick to them. Though things may creep up and they will, follow-up with what wasn’t done today and add it to tomorrow’s list. Begin to depend on it as your guideline. 6. Take some time for yourself to think Do something that you enjoy. Do this on purpose. Also with a pen and pad take time to relax and think early mornings after prayer. It’s a great time because your mind is cued up. 7. Commit to reading a self-help book daily Even if it’s only one chapter a day, engage your focus with something to build you up, A teacher is ever learning. 8. Take a walk When feeling overwhelmed, remove yourself from what you’re doing and take a walk outside and then seek the master Designer for clarity and direction. 9. Remove worry When you trust in the Lord for all that you need, whether it’s meeting a time-frame or paying your bill, it will remove the worry. And besides, worrying is a sin. God is big enough to handle your concerns and mine. 10. Get help Seek the help of an assistant with the administrative issues so you can free the mind to be creative. I believe we can categorize and organize our thoughts as we do our homes, (I hope you organize your home. As you move about your home so does your mind). We were not designed or engineered to carry a clogged mind. If this is speaking to you today, leave me a comment and share how this post has helped you. I believe that I was inspired to write this this morning just for you. Sharing my passion, Deana

It seems everyone I talk to these days is experiencing some bumps and bruises of life. While the economic downturn is causing widespread financial difficulties, fear is all around, and more and more people are searching for ways to get their lives in order and find peace.

But know that what determines the outcome of your life is not what’s happening around you but what’s happening within you. I believe that all change, power, and solution comes from within you.

The key to designing for success is to change the negatives and fears within you. So how do you change what’s within you? I’ve tagged the process, “Designing Within”. By designing within, you will fill your thoughts, direct your conversations, and determine your actions as you feed on the possibilities and not the problems.

A powerful passage reminds us that as a man thinks, so is he. What this means is you literally become what you think about; what you deliberately focus your thoughts on.

Think about this. Now really, you have to think about something, right? I mean the mind is always working. Why not use the opportunity to your advantage?

1. Train your mind to focus on or create what you desire instead of feeding on the negatives that you see!

2. Separate from negative people.

3. Stop watching the news, you’ll more than likely eliminate 50% of your fears.

4. When your mind wants to drift back into the negative mode, tell your mind, “Nope, I’m not going back there. I don’t care what I hear to see, I’m working on me!”

Take a hint from Jill Scott. She is designing for success with the love of God within her and is “taking freedom off the shelf” and living her life like it’s golden. Her video, “Golden”, is my video pick of the month.

Be encouraged.

~ change your thoughts
~ change your words
~ change your actions
~ change your life
~ change your world

Are you ready to live your life like’s it’s golden? Let’s talk.

Sharing my passion,
Deana