A couple of weeks ago at a Toastmaster’s table topics speech contest I observed how confidence succeeded and took home the trophy. I’m sure the entire table topic contestants had very much anticipated this event, but there was one ingredient that the winner had over the rest. It was confidence.

Self confidence is the difference between feeling relentless and feeling terrified out of your wits. How you perceive yourself has a big impact on how you are perceived by others. The person who took home the trophy that evening undoubtedly commanded our attention because her confidence stared directly in our face.

Designing a self-confident attitude isn’t hard. When you think about it there are a number of things you can do by design to build self confidence. By using these 9 approaches you can get the mental edge required to exceed leveling the plane.

1. Dress for greatness

Before people hear you they see you. Your physical appearance speaks boldly and loudly affecting the way you feel about yourself. I’ve often pondered the cliché, “Clothes make the man.” I’m not sure if that’s factual, but I personally know when I don’t look good, it changes the way I carry myself and how I interact with other people. You can greatly benefit from scrutinizing your personal appearance and dress with greatness in mind.

• Shop for quality, not for quantity. High quality items have a much longer style tolerance and life.

• Invest in yourself by consulting with an image expert. The advice gets you on track and goes along way.

2. It’s in your stride
One of the surest ways to identify how a person feels about themselves is to examine their stride, or walk. You want to walk assured of yourself. Walking slowly as if you are tired or labored sends this message to the brain. People with confidence walk quickly, energetic and purposefully. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. This will make you look striking and feel over the top.

3. Maintain good posture

Let your posture tell your story. People with slumped shoulders who move lethargically display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. Maintaining good posture automatically boosts your confidence. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

§         Stand up straight

§         Resist leaning on one leg

§         Keep your head up

§         Make eye contact

§         Keep shoulders straight and firm

4. Practice thanksgiving

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind will come up with a million reasons why you can’t have it. Then you will dwell on your weaknesses. You can avoid this by practicing thanksgiving. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be thankful for. I’ve journal each night the things that I was thankful for during that day. You can do this too. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and happy times. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you. You’ll be motivated to take that next step towards your greatness.

5. Compliment other people even if they are a stranger

Thinking negatively about yourself causes stress, frustration and sometimes hopelessness. If you would get in the habit of praising other people, there’s less focus on you. People will then begin to compliment you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build your self-confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself. Don’t forget to smile.

6. Get noticed

Don’t sit in the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. My husband can tell you that I am a front row, up front person. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over fear’s grip and develop your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room. Sit up straight and appear as thought you’re benefiting from the speaker even if you aren’t. Practice becoming a confident listener.

7. Have a voice

During group discussions many people never say anything because they’re afraid they will be judged if they say something wrong. Say something even if you have to do it afraid. Push past the apprehension and just imagine how receptive people will be to learn from you. Make an effort to be a vital part of the group and have a voice. You’ll sure to become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

8. Exercise the body and the brain

Exercise has a huge effect on self confidence. Most people who are out of shape have feelings of insecurity and are less energetic. By working out, not only will you improve your physical appearance but it also improves your brain’s function. Exercise creates and increases endorphins and serotonin in your brain. This combats depression and gives you positive energy. This energy translates into self-confidence.

9. Focus on God’s goodness and helping others

Sometimes we get caught up on ourselves and forget about others. God’s goodness is all around and taking the time to meditate on His goodness builds us up and gives us the confidence we need to do great things. Focus on the needs, contributions and accomplishments of others. When you make your life a well-watered garden and focus on God’s goodness, He will show you what to do, how to be more productive in daily activities. Once you begin to do this, you’ll notice that your self-confidence levels will increase.

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Many may think living victoriously means having all points of life directed to success and abundance. Or even perhaps good health, loving families or winning in every area of life. And yes, those do contribute to a victorious lifestyle. I would even venture to say that they are victories within themselves. Yet in actuality, life isn’t always that cut and dry. I mean you can’t put life in a box and judge living victoriously merely by one’s accomplishments, achievements, or accolades. Living victoriously from my vantage point means living from the inside out; outside of the box, especially when life deals you a bad hand. Watch this short video and you’ll see what I mean.

I hope you were encouraged. You can live a victorious life despite the challenges and chaos that peeps its ugly head up at you. If you want to read how 40 women across 18 different states conquered their woes and live a victorious life, go here.