Let’s Talk: It’s inevitable.  Sooner or later everybody experiences a form of rejection whether its adversity, failure, abuse, exclusion or divorce. We can get rebuffed by people who we least suspect in all paths of travel. More commonly described as a refusal to accept, consider, submit to, take for some purpose, or use, rejection can be a hard pill to swallow. 

The bottom line is no one is ever ready for it when it happens.

I think the pain and difficulty in handling rejection stems from the kind of relationship we have with the other individual. Rejection can often leave one to feel isolated, ostracized, and alone.

I can remember having a very difficult time as a result of being rejected by a leader who I respected and admired. For me, I believe the pain I endeared was also coupled by embarrassment mainly because I felt ostracized.

We must realize though it doesn’t matter where the rejection comes from, if it is handled responsibly, both parties can learn a viable lesson.  One can become a stronger and more mature individual and better prepared for other pitfalls in life. And know this, pitfalls will come.

After viewing the rejection through the eyes of the Lord, I realized it was a wake-up call—a call to who I am and a barometer for me to gauge how far I could excel in my calling by simply “responding” to it instead of “reacting” to it. Had I soaked in the “woe is me pity-party attitude syndrome”, I would have missed an exceptionally powerful direction for my life.

There’s a wide range of reasons why people are rejected. Let’s look at three of these and the ways to handle it with kid gloves and protect your destiny:

1. People reject you when you don’t fit into their mode.  This means you are rejected for being wrong and doing wrong. If someone rejects you because you refuse to change to fit into their mode, view the rejection as something good.

For example, if, in order to fit in, you must drive a certain type of car or maintain a distinct lifestyle, then that group’s rejection of you is not about you but a result of their inner conflicts they may not be aware of.

If you want to fit in with a particular person or group, and no matter how hard you try, they still don’t see you as a good fit and reject you, trying to make anyone like you is a mistake. There are just some combinations of people whose chemistry don’t mix—even within the same circles.

You will come across as being weak when the goal is to be liked by a particular person or group. In many respects, be glad certain groups would never accept you.

To handle this type of rejection, understand the issue is not necessarily with you.  Knowing who you are carries the assurance that you will influence the right people at the right time. And your inner confidence will be your driving force.

When the goal is to be exceptional, you will find others wanting to take the journey with you. It is the work and the journey that bind people together.

2.  People reject you when you out-do or exceed them. This means you are rejected for being right or doing right. Being right means someone rejects you because you are just too exceptional for what they expected. Again, handle it by viewing it as something good.

For example, a recruiter says you’re overqualified for a position. Be assured there’s a far better one just ahead, or it’s time to start that business you’ve been thinking about.

Or a lady is rejected by a guy because she makes more money than he does—she owns her home and he still lives with his parents even though she is cool with all of this—handle this by getting still and reflecting on when one door closes, a larger one opens.

A larger door makes room for a larger “catch.”  People who are intimidated by you haven’t discovered their spot or who they are.

You may be rejected for doing the right thing. For example, coworkers or friends reject you because they want to cut-up or cut-corners, but you want to maintain your virtue and integrity. As a result, they want to stay distant from you because they feel you will make them look bad.

Maintain your integrity and handle this type of rejection simply as being in the wrong place with the wrong people at the wrong time. Again, walk in the confidence that you are exceptional and don’t compromise.

When you are rejected by your family for various reasons, you handle it by first praying for them, loving them even if it’s at a distance and trusting God for restoration.

3. People reject you when you try to do things with them at the wrong time. In his book “21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership,” Dr. John Maxwell’s insightful comment about timing is worth mentioning: “The wrong action at the wrong time leads to disaster; the right action at the wrong time brings resistance; the wrong action at the right time is a mistake; the right action at the right time leads to success.”

When you are rejected because of the timing of what you were trying to do, the rejection can leave a scar if you don’t understand. For example, a lady’s interest in a guy is rebuffed by him because he was healing from a recent breakup.

A proposal to enhance your company is refused because the company you work for was badly affected by the recession in the economy. It was the timing that led to the rejection of those individuals. Handling this with kid-gloves is simply asking, “Is it something I did wrong?” or “Can you please explain my error?”

You can’t go through life without being rejected or refused, criticized or corrected for what you say, what you do, or how you do it. The way we are wired makes it difficult to take correction well. We get defensive and take it as rejection.

But you can learn to find the hidden treasure within the criticism or correction that will enable you to grow and improve. Life will be so much easier for you if you live by design, refusing to rise to the bait.

When you respond to rejection instead of reacting to it, you allow the healing process to begin and the framework is laid for you to shine.

If you want to change your life and are unsure where to begin, consider  working with me as your mentor and coach. You don’t have to live with inner conflicts and chaos neither do you have to be content with mediocrity. Why don’t you contact me here and begin your journey to  living by design, EASIER, BETTER AND WITH LESS EFFORT.

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Exceptional Living by design together,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana is the only interior designer and speaker who work with women leaders who are having a hard time with inner conflicts and distractions in their lives.

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Let’s Talk.   Change is inevitable. But so may people fear change. They’d rather remain in the “status quo” doing the same thing day after day, week after week, month after month, year after year. Stuck. Unable to move on, not knowing what to do next.

Do you know what this is?  Well I’ll tell you. It is an inner barrier that has them bound. It’s an emotional sickness. It’s fear in the form of stress. But I’m here to challenge you.  It’s time to change your life.

Stress can be brought on by many things, but I will share with you one thing that you may not have considered. And that is people. Toxic people. Are you aware of the fact that toxic people bringing undue stress into your life could be killing you? Toxic people bring stress, and stress drains life out of you.

You may love these people and they may be important to you. But hear me. Your life matters. Toxic people bring stress and stress is a poison. Stress affects your thoughts, feelings and behavior.

The American Psychological Association’s “Stress in America” 2010 report cites the following common effects of stress:

• On your body:  headache, muscle tension or pain, chest pain, fatigue, change in sex drive, stomach upset, sleep problem
• On your mood:  anxiety, restlessness, lack of motivation or focus, irritability or anger, sadness or depression
• On your behavior:  over-eating, under-eating, angry outburst, drug or alcohol abuse, tobacco abuse, social withdrawal

I recently had to separate myself from someone who I chose to be my friend. After noticing certain controlling characteristic traits and seeing how I behaved when she was around, I knew I had to make some adjustments.

The important thing to note is these people may mean well, and they often do, but you must be wise as serpents and harmless as doves (Matthew 10:16).

The wisdom is this:

• recognizing and knowing the people you allow into in your life
• are they a blessing from God or a set-up by satan

In being harmless:  you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. You want to separate yourself from a divisive and chaotic situation. What I did was allow God to seamlessly sever my relationship with this person and love her from a distance. You see, the dove personality is that of peace.

Are you ready to change your life? There’s a world out there waiting for your service, your greatness.

• Alleviate the stress by removing yourself from toxic people and situations.
• Reflect on who you are in Christ and have quiet times to meditate.
• Engage in daily physical activity
• Learn to include relaxation in your day.
• Note these on your calendar to remind yourself.

THIS WEEK’S MOTIV-ACTION:  “Change will not come if we wait for some other person or some other time. We are the ones we’ve been waiting for. We are the change that we seek.”  ~Barack Obama

If you want to change your life and unsure where to begin, consider working with me as your mentor and coach. You don’t have to live with inner conflicts and chaos neither be content with mediocrity. Why don’t you contact me here and begin your journey from chaos to order, EASIER, BETTER AND WITH LESS EFFORT.

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Exceptional Living by design together,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana is the only interior designer and speaker who work with women leaders who are having a hard time with inner direction and distractions in their lives.

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Let’s Talk. How does it feel now that you’ve completed your evaluation phase? Remember I showed you how to do that in my last post. You may want to read it here before you continue reading this one.

Okay, with your evaluation under your belt now you’ve got this life and home design thing spelled out. You’ve defined the problem, you know what’s causing the chaos, you know what’s working and not working and of course, you now know the most important issues of your life/home design and your motivation for designing them. So in essence you’ve got to know you and your home better.

Now that your adrenalin is soaring and your desire and determination are spiraling, you’re probably wondering how to approach the life/home design process. Without a model you simply can’t. The model that I use for my lifedesign process is the very same approach I use to design the home environment.

Because design is a science, the “life design” methodology is knowledge attained through study or practice.

Therefore, from my knowledge and practice of life/home design, I want to give you a quick model to work with in this second phase of sprucing your life and your home.

DESIGN. Because I see life/home design so closely related, I believe you can dream, design and decorate them both with style and grace. Design is the creating, producing, conceptualizing stage.

The key is to developing a clear picture of where you are headed. Here’s 3 ways a true design diva conquers any design project.

1. Measure it. What are you witnessing within you? What direction do you want your life to go? How do you want your space to feel? These will become your design inspirations. Designing is reflecting who you are and what’s important to you and measuring it in a logical and efficient way so the process is simple and effective. Systematic measurements of  what outcomes you want to see in major categories of your life, and accurate measurements of any physical space you are working on is the single most important piece of information you need. Measure, measure, measure.

2. Blueprint it. Outline a life plan and furniture plan. Categorize your life. Create specific areas of your life in order of importance. You may want to list who and what matters most and how you want to be remembered by them. Categorize your home. Divide a space or the entire home into areas of importance and focus on one area at a time. Blueprint a furniture plan that suits your needs and works with the specific details of your space. Blueprinting a life/furniture plan gives you the visual menu of who and what’s important to you and the people who inhabit your space.

3. Decorate it. Begin putting things into shape and perspective. Because life is short, you want your life to have impacted the lives of those you love in a powerful way. Begin to decorate your life as you would want to be remembered when you leave this world. How do you want your relationships to impact the lives of others? What do you want people to say about you at your funeral? Decorate your life accordingly. The same is true for your home. How do you want your decor to impact the lives of its inhabitants? Is everyone comfortable in the home? Does your desire for a certain decor supersede the desires of the other inhabitants? Begin decorating with all users in mind.

Design your life and your home with others in mind. Don’t necessarily focus on the arty aspects but more importantly on functionality. Is your life functional? What about your home?

Let me know if you are needing support with either one or both.

If you would like to learn how you can work with me so you can bounce-back, fast-forward and live by design, start here and take advantage of the complimentary consultation.

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Living by design together,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana is the only interior designer and speaker who work with women leaders who are having a hard time with inner direction and distractions in their lives.

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 Let's Talk. With the launch of this beautiful spring season, I want to share my spin on how to spruce up your life and your home. The misconception of many is once the home is in order then everything else will just fall in line. The truth of the matter is your life has to be in order before you can bring order in the home.

Many are frustrated with how both their home and life are looking right now. The frustrations they experience in trying to bring sense to confusion and order to chaos are the results of some innate inability. It is not taught in schools. As a result, people develop many beliefs, misconceptions and ineffective techniques that build up a wall. This affects the way you think about any process and as a result things never seem to fall into place.

There are 3 direct phases for designing both your life and your home. (a) Evaluate where you are, where you are going, what’s holding you back and why it’s important to you; (b) Design a plan of action for the transformation of your life and your space including a realistic timeline and (c) Implement the design in a methodical way, adjusting the way you think making sure you see visible, dramatic results as you work. Let’s begin with the phase one.

Evaluate. Smart design solutions stem from seeing our lives with a clear understanding of the problem. In order to reach any goal, you have to begin by defining it. So I will quickly give you 5 ways to assess this:

• 1. What’s causing the chaos? Identify what issues are at the heart of your lifedesign and home design challenge. List the errors, internal realities, external realities and any psychological obstacles that come to mind.
• 2. What’s working already?  One of the best ways to custom-design both your life and your home is to identify what works. This saves you time and energy, you’ll recognize that you’re on the right path which gives you a boost of self-confidence and you’ll discover what’s appealing that can be replicated.

• 3. What’s not working?  This is where you’ll discover everything in need of fixing. It is so very helpful to write down everything about your life and your home that frustrates you. Let it flow and don’t hold back. This brings you healing because you now have before you a complete list of problems you desire to solve. Once you see the big picture it is then easy to begin working out the solution. Post this in places where you can see it throughout the home. It keeps you focused and on point. As each problem is solved, cross it off the list.

• 4. What is the most important issue right now?   By brainstorming about the important areas of your life and home gives you helpful directions for organizing both a life and living plan. In doing this think of your goals for your life and your home. There are many options and directions you can take. I suggest defining first what you are needing to accomplish in your life and home as a whole, or the area of your life or a certain space you are desiring to design in the home.

•  5. Why do you want to design your life and your home? What irks you? This is where you reinforce your motivation for changing you and your home. Designing your life and your home takes diligence and focus.Identify what you expect to achieve by bringing order to the chaos in your life and home once and for all. By determining your own personal compelling reasons for doing this, you create your own coaching tool to refer to for inspiration when needed.In my next post I will breakdown the design phase. Before you know it, your life and home will be spruced up and transformed right before your eyes.

Isn’t it time you intentionally get involved with you and live by design?

If you would like to learn how you can work with me so you can bounce-back, fast-forward and live by design, start here and take advantage of the complimentary consultation.

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Living by design together,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana is the only interior designer and speaker who work with women leaders who are having a hard time with inner direction and distractions in their lives. She can be reached in the following ways:

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Let’s Talk.   I hope you are doing awesome!

For more than 100 years the world has celebrated International Women’s Day on March 8th. This special day recognizes advances made by women and girls all over the world. This day also reminds us to address the issues that are holding us captive; the wall of chaos building barriers in our minds.  IT’S OUR TIME!

In celebration of International Women’s Day, I want to empower you by sharing seven keys to constant dream achievement to take charge of your inner chaos. Your destiny is defined by how you utilize what God has entrusted you with. Your destiny will not arbitrarily fall into your lap just because you are praying to God to reveal your purpose. He expects a return on his investment in you. Give him something to work with. Do something! Stop making excuses. 

I recently met two wonderful women in Ghana who made jewelry by hand and took it to the market so they could  attend a personal development seminar. Did this inconvenience them? Absolutely! Did they whine, blame others and make excuses? Absolutely not! They stepped out in faith and invested in their future.

Sometimes life’s many twists and turns make us unsure of ourselves. A chaotic lifestyle can short-change us of our purposeful pursuits. I know for sure that a well-designed life is truly one that is full of purpose. I also know that purposeful living doesn’t happen by accident. We must make an on-purpose effort to bring order to chaos and then engage in activities that stimulate our mind, stretch our thinking that causes us to move in the direction of our dreams.

No matter what hindrances you may face or set-backs that may appear to have a grip on you, by seeing through the eye of different perspectives, the difficult can appear easy and doable. This is when vision is born.

The greatest gift ever given to us is not the gift of sight, but the gift of vision. If you want to stop waddling in chaos and confusion, you must have a source and hope of life. Vision is the source and hope of life. Vision gives your life meaning. But your vision will not manifest simply because you are hoping and wishing. You must be proactive. You must design your life. That’s empowerment.

An empowered life yields benefits for entire families and communities. Before you can bring order to your life, you must develop certain disciplines.  This should be what you consider a “normal life.”

1.  Develop a prayer lifestyle. Pray with expectancy. When you pray, you force your natural mind, with all its logic and reasoning, to quiet down so you can tune into the Spirit. Stop asking, just listen.

2.  Use your Imagination. Without a compelling dream, your life is limited. Allow your imagination run fervently with possibilities. Visualize yourself as your most successful self.

3.  Dream Beyond Your Means. Don’t limit your dream by your natural resources, time, talent, income or education.  When you downsize your dream to fit within your small means, you do a disservice to yourself and your big God.

4.  Grow Your Dream by Growing Yourself.  You have good treasures stored within you.  Invest in yourself.  As my coach always say, “Information changes the seasons of your life.”

5.  Frame a Positive Future.  You can frame an inspiring future with your words and faith pictures. Create life design inspiration all around you.

6.  Develop Dream Disciplines.  Be Diligent and pursue what is important to you. HAVE FAITH for every God-given dream requires faith to achieve it.  DEVELOP PATIENCE for a dream delayed is not a dream denied. STAY FOCUSED for a focused person wastes little time. LOVE OTHERS because to fulfill your dreams you must be motivated by love. TAKE ACTION for you’ll never rise higher than the action you take on a daily basis.

7.  Stay Victory Minded. Victory is a mindset before it is a reality. The battleground for a life of order and victory is in the mind.

What will you do with this information?  Will you read it and forget it, or will you take the plunge to design the life you desire?

Isn’t it time you intentionally get involved with you and live by design?

If you would like to learn how you can work with me so you can bounce-back, fast-forward and live by design, start here and take advantage of the complimentary consultation.

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Living by design together,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana is the only interior designer and speaker who work with women leaders who are having a hard time with inner direction and distractions in their lives. She can be reached in the following ways:

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Let’s Talk:  Designing your life is much the same as designing your home. It is a process built on principles and elements.  Taking stock in knowing what you want and where you are going applies to both. Both first requires a renovation process. For lifedesign, this requires doing a life-assessment and then a personal need-assessment that will give you the information required for blueprinting what to improvement on.

If you’re like me, seeing my outline in writing gives me focus and the fortitude to move forward. By listing your life needs on paper, it clarifies your thinking and shows you where you are going. The important criterion is being totally honest with you and very specific about your life.

Can you imagine designing a physical space based on a vague outline saying it doesn’t matter where the bed goes and add colors and textures wherever you can? You may come home and find your bed in the dining room and paint splattered in checks and stripes on your floors. Neither is that practical or functional. Life works by the same standards. Being specific about dreams and desires helps to create your path.

A written blueprint for your life will become a tool you’ll use and refer to over and over. It places life’s functionality and intentions in an organized way.  You will have need to tweak it as your life progresses, but you will definitely have a start.

Here are four questions to ask yourself:

1. Where have I been?

The goal is to gain perspective about the ways your past influences your current view of the world and gain design inspiration for moving on.

2.  Where am I now?

The goal is to assess where things stand in your life right now and take stock in an agenda for your personal development.

3. Where do I want to go?

The goal is to see your life from a broad perspective, clarifying what you want your life to mean while increasing self-esteem and confidence.

4.  How do I plan to get there?

The goal is to systematically plan your actions with an eye toward identifying potential problems as well as potential supporters and personal brand development.

By working through these questions in an organized way, you can take control of your life and live intentionally right now. It gives you the opportunity to explore your innermost hopes and fears. But more importantly, you will learn a process for the kind of ongoing planning that will make your life more satisfying and meaningful so you can bounce back and fast-forward your life.

Isn’t it time you intentionally get involved with you and live by design?

If you would like to learn how you can work with me so you can bounce-back, fast-forward and live by design, start here and take advantage of the complimentary consultation.

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Living by design together,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana works with women leaders who want to BOUNCE BACK, FAST-FORWARD their lives courageously, confidently, and conscientiously, leaving a positive footprint in the world.

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Let’s Talk.  Can you step out against the odds and be different?

As long as I can remember, I’ve done things differently than the norm.  I don’t consider it as out-of-the-box as I do on the cutting-edge. When I was an undergrad, I wrote an essay about the stereotypes of my own culture.  In grad school, I enrolled in advanced classes requiring prerequisites I didn’t have and convinced the Dean to allow me in.

I graduated magna cum laude in interior design where I fought against the odds of being the only Afro American in the class with haters peering down my neck.

I moved on to seminary options that were different, completing a doctorate with no debt. I submitted the manuscript of my published book as my dissertation not formatted to the curriculum’s standards, and I received an A and again graduating magna cum laude.

I drove around the Rock of Gibraltar in southern Spain when they said it was dangerous and impossible to do.

I wrote the first ever interior design book uniquely combining biblical and design principles and received an award.

While combining biblical and design principles in a methodical way using a unique blueprint of the sacred “inner” rooms of your very own temple (body), I help people to get unstuck and design their lives.

Now that’s different!

Many would have given up, feared and accepted the status quo. Getting worth and value is about who I am and not what I did. It’s about a bounce back and fast-forward, living by design demeanor. It’s about stepping up and being different!

This isn’t about tooting my horn but to show you that you can too STEP OUT AND BE DIFFERENT. Remember conforming to the norm is seldom the best choice.  People often think whatever the majority is doing must be the “best” route to take. People rush to Starbucks daily for a cup of coffee, but is Starbucks the “best” coffee?  People stand in long lines to pay for their merchandise at Wal-Mart, but does Wal-Mart have the “best” merchandise?  Is the most popular politician ever likely to be the “best” choice for being in power?

If you are going to walk in your purpose and life calling, you will have to first walk in the confidence of doing what’s inside of you even against the odds. Don’t let your fear overwhelm your desire. Ask yourself, what would I do if I wasn’t afraid, don’t have the money, others are saying don’t,  and then go do it.

Remember the beautiful Sistene Chapel?  Did you know Michelangelo was really a sculptor and not a painter? Yet he is remembered today for this innovative invention of new ways of painting poses, clothing on figures and awe-inspiring details all different in his era. In addition to having to learn everything about the medium itself and making initial blunders in that area, he also had to learn some wickedly hard techniques in perspective. He often had to bend backwards and paint over his head — an awkward position —which must have made his neck and back ache, his arms burn painfully and, according to him, permanently screwed up his vision.

But he was different!

I challenge you today to locate yourself. Cancel the emotion of doubt and get you some help if necessary to get unstuck and move out into your divine destiny. What is on your heart? Taking a course? Starting a business? Taking a vacation? Writing a book? Hiring a coach?

If you would like to learn how you can work with me so you can bounce-back, fast-forward and live by design, start here and take advantage of the complimentary consultation.

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Living by design together,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana works with women leaders who want to BOUNCE BACK, FAST-FORWARD their lives courageously, confidently, and conscientiously, leaving a positive footprint in the world.

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Let’s Talk.  I was looking through my library of books and came across some wonderful reading material. I wish I had the hours to sit and immerse myself in all of this information. I am simultaneously reading three books.  Did you know that when you purchase a book, you are actually purchasing the years of knowledge and wisdom a person has gain over their life time? That’s priceless.  I am reading on one of my admired subjects in Taffi Dollar’s, The Portrait of a Virtuous Woman: Finding Your Freedom in God’s Perfect Plan for You. It helps me to make the necessary adjustments in my own journey to break free of inner chaos, confusion, regrets and disappointments.

She cites four things that may become roadblocks as you begin to change. Below is my spin on how the first two of these four roadblocks applies to you making necessary adjustments for designing your ideal life. Next week, I’ll write to you about the remaining two. The numbered italicized roadblock statements in bold are in Taffi’s words. The paragraphs that follow are in my words.

1.  Feelings of Low Self-Image or Lack of Worth
If your self-image is different and less than how God sees you, then your image is false. Perhaps you’ve been seeking your identity and looking for fulfillment among the wrong people, things or places. Here’s how God sees you:

   (a) with a peace of mind – freedom from fear, anger
        and doubt
   (b) with good health – high energy with a satisfied
        life
   (c) with loving relationships – long-term, mature
        relationships with other people
   (d) with financial freedom – no worries of having
        enough money
   (e) with worthy goals and ideas – a driven purpose
   (f)  with personal fulfillment – becoming everything
        you are capable of becoming

2. Unwilling to Change the Way you Speak
The words you speak will either put you over or set up roadblocks. Your words have power. Idle words work against you. Saying things out of habit can destroy your life and those of others.

   (a) I died laughing – say it was extremely
        funny and I laughed
   (b) you won’t ever amount to anything – say you
        can change and do much better
   (c) I will never be successful – say I can do all
        things through Christ
   (d) this pain is killing me – say I refuse to let this
        pain overtake me. I am already healed!

Next week I’ll give my personal spin on how you can make necessary adjustments on the other two roadblocks to design your ideal life.

Final note: as a certified interior living educator, specialist and strategist, I can help you to apply the tools to create major breakthroughs, achieve emotional clarity, personal accountability and inner direction so you can create a life of confidence, order and freedom. Let me help you get unstuck and live intentionally so you can design your ideal life. Begin by signing up for a get-acquainted session on my website.

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Live by Design,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana works with women leaders who want to BOUNCE BACK, FAST-FORWARD their lives courageously, confidently, and conscientiously, leaving a positive footprint in the world.

She can be reached in the following ways:

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Monday 1/23/12 was the  second class in our 360 Mountain Moving Motivation series.

360 Designing Women, you have the direct link to the call but you can still comment below. Going forward, the link to the calls are only accessible to you and will not be posted publicly on this blog.

Thank you for investing your time to your  life improvement and spiritual growth. I look forward to your comments, questions and seeing you on the call next week.

Dr. Deana

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Monday 1/16/12 was the debut of 360 Mountain Moving Motivation. Here’s the recording. 360 Mountain Moving Motivation 1.16.12

Ladies post your comments and/or questions below. Don’t be shy!! I will respond to each one of them. Feel free to cross communicate with each other.

Living by design together,

 Let’s Talk. This February there is a 29^th day which means the year 2012 has 366 days instead of the usual 365. Thinking about this, with 24 hours in a day, there are 24 extra hours this year to leap forward. So what does this mean? Having 12 months in a year, you have 2 extra hours each month to leap into your desired future.

Undoubtedly no one works 24 hours around the clock, but think about an extra 30 minutes each week to do something extra towards your future. That computes to 2 extra hours a month. I have some reflective suggests by which to utilize this extra time.

Design, organize, execute.  Design clear, concise objectives for the year. Organize the blueprint into 4 spaces of time, say winter, spring, summer and fall. This breaks down to 6 extra hours per time space to work. Format your objectives in reasonable and doable activities and execute accordingly.

Look for innovative ideas. Visit book stores and libraries and read, read and read some more. Many of my ideas are birthed when I read books that intrigued and challenge me. Reading promotes an outstanding wealth of learning.

Develop a sense of urgency. Ideas have an expiration date. Don’t procrastinate. Procrastination is a thief of time. Wasted time is a thief of life. In just 30 minutes you can meditate on how to proceed with an idea or research the possibilities.

Concentrate on one thing at a time until completion.  The slogan, “I’m Every Woman” is simply played out. You cannot do everything. Do one thing well, in excellence and then graduate to the next level. I see so many make this mistake. I’ve been guilty of this. Simply concentrate intently without diversion and digression on one thing until completion.

Expect disappointments, delays and setbacks. No I am not being a pessimist; I’m preparing you to key yourself up and be motivated to stick it out. You have 2 extra hours each month to outperform your 2011 undertakings. People always plan to succeed with goal setting and affirmations. In addition, add a strategy for any unforeseen disappointments, delays and setbacks. Take an extra 30 minutes to plan how you will handle this.

Respect your dreams. You will attract what you respect. Manage your life so you can give quality time to pursuing your dreams. Get excited about them. This energy will catapult you forward and onward. It’s your personal development barameter.

See it, touch it, hear it, smell it, taste it.  You were designed to engage all of your senses in training your subconscious to propel you to what you desire. Get a clear, mental image of your objective as if already obtained. See it clearly. Feel the texture of it. Smell the environment.  Hear people talking about it. Taste the sweetness of the accomplishments and accolades. You can do this in just 30 minutes each day.

Pay the price. Lay-out your foundation firmly in determination and diligence; persistence and perseverance then vow to never ever give up. Your resolve is your measurement of your faith in yourself. Believe in you especially when all others don’t.

Don’t misunderstand the focus of 24 hours to leap. Remember the key is to managing your personal design and not managing your time. When you manage your lifedesign, you will use time wisely and accomplish all of your objectives.

Do you need help with your personal design? Someone who understands and will help you become accountable for your life and follow inner direction? Contact me for your confidential get-acquainted call.

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Thank You!

Live by Design,

Copyright 2012, Dr. Deana Murphy. Dr. Deana works with women leaders who want to BOUNCE BACK, FAST-FORWARD their lives courageously, confidently, and conscientiously, leaving a positive footprint in the world.

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